Saturday, April 21, 2007
Why people marry?
Some day, some coffee house
I: Partner, can I ask you something?
Partner: Oh, I really love this cold coffee blended with ice-cream. Yea, tell me.
I: Why people marry?
Partner: What?
I: That was plain vanilla English. Why people marry?
Partner: Well, I don’t know. I am not.
I: Why not?
Partner: Because I was never convinced that I should.
I: Don’t you feel lonely? Don’t you feel need for a companion?
Partner: Yes, I do. But ..
I: Don’t you have physical needs? How do you quench your thirst?
Partner: I have my ways. They don’t fit in your ideas of sophistication.
I: Hmmm
Partner: Should that be the primary motive for the marriage? That you can legitimately do the stuff as and when you want.
I: No. Not like that, but it is also one of the motives.
Partner: 80% of the people marry for two reasons. Because of the ‘never-going-to-happen’ romantic picture of their lives which they paint before and repent afterwards and because that is what traditionally has been happening in the society for so long.
I: What about family dreams – having loving wife, kids? How mankind will continue to exist if there are no marriages?
Partner: You are confusing causality. Mankind exists because people marry and have kids as an inevitable consequence of marriage. People do not marry for mankind to exist.
I: Still … show must go on.
Partner: It will. Because rest 80%, who follow the trend, ensure that it will.
I: So you do not believe in marriage, do you?
Partner: Yes, I do. Its perfect for others, they need it. I am never fascinated by ideas of having my own family and raising my own kids. I'd rather live like a loner - that suits my personality.
I: Would you say the same thing, had your first love not turned you down?
Partner: ......
I: Tell me. Is that the reason you lost the faith in the system? Is that the reason you are loner?
Partner: ......
I: All your other philosophy is just a disguise for the real reason why you are not married.
Partner: Yes.
I: Why?
Partner: I know it happens to many and they recover from it - if not actually then at least apparently. You can not force someone to love you and you can not force yourself to stop loving someone or love someone else instead. There is no reasoning. There is not matching algorithm. Nobody knows why. But you know when it happens and it happens only once in a lifetime. At least for me, it never happened again and I decided not to compromise - not to go ahead unless it clicks again and it never clicked again.
I: And that made your life miserable?
Partner: No. You won’t know it is such a satisfying feeling that you did not let yourself down in front of your own eyes. No regrets!
(long silence)
I: I wish I were you. ¶ 5:23 AM
I: Partner, can I ask you something?
Partner: Oh, I really love this cold coffee blended with ice-cream. Yea, tell me.
I: Why people marry?
Partner: What?
I: That was plain vanilla English. Why people marry?
Partner: Well, I don’t know. I am not.
I: Why not?
Partner: Because I was never convinced that I should.
I: Don’t you feel lonely? Don’t you feel need for a companion?
Partner: Yes, I do. But ..
I: Don’t you have physical needs? How do you quench your thirst?
Partner: I have my ways. They don’t fit in your ideas of sophistication.
I: Hmmm
Partner: Should that be the primary motive for the marriage? That you can legitimately do the stuff as and when you want.
I: No. Not like that, but it is also one of the motives.
Partner: 80% of the people marry for two reasons. Because of the ‘never-going-to-happen’ romantic picture of their lives which they paint before and repent afterwards and because that is what traditionally has been happening in the society for so long.
I: What about family dreams – having loving wife, kids? How mankind will continue to exist if there are no marriages?
Partner: You are confusing causality. Mankind exists because people marry and have kids as an inevitable consequence of marriage. People do not marry for mankind to exist.
I: Still … show must go on.
Partner: It will. Because rest 80%, who follow the trend, ensure that it will.
I: So you do not believe in marriage, do you?
Partner: Yes, I do. Its perfect for others, they need it. I am never fascinated by ideas of having my own family and raising my own kids. I'd rather live like a loner - that suits my personality.
I: Would you say the same thing, had your first love not turned you down?
Partner: ......
I: Tell me. Is that the reason you lost the faith in the system? Is that the reason you are loner?
Partner: ......
I: All your other philosophy is just a disguise for the real reason why you are not married.
Partner: Yes.
I: Why?
Partner: I know it happens to many and they recover from it - if not actually then at least apparently. You can not force someone to love you and you can not force yourself to stop loving someone or love someone else instead. There is no reasoning. There is not matching algorithm. Nobody knows why. But you know when it happens and it happens only once in a lifetime. At least for me, it never happened again and I decided not to compromise - not to go ahead unless it clicks again and it never clicked again.
I: And that made your life miserable?
Partner: No. You won’t know it is such a satisfying feeling that you did not let yourself down in front of your own eyes. No regrets!
(long silence)
I: I wish I were you. ¶ 5:23 AM
